Why women date other marrieds?
Speak about a loaded matter that no one wants to talk about, this is it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on ever since the beginning of the world. Extramarital affairs can be burdened with troubles, cause despair, and other troubles. Also you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty issue, funds, age dissimilarity, spiritual background, shame, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I will define an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married dating.
Why do men have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are man seeking woman for affair. I am sure mainly though it is only the human nature, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Physically we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and exciting, and sex makes us get away the world for a brief period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Some people can switch the longing on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another individual, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos culture has erected against extramarital affairs. For lots of people the yearnings will overcome their doubts and make them risk the anger of not only their family, but the public also. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is horribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your spouse or anyone else? You will need to minimize the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the biggest group, huge in fact. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they feel happy in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to consider. Your money are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them completing the sex performance, at least not with their othere half. An marital affair from time to time solves the problem while keeping the marriage intact.
Neglect, sadly this is a frequent reason I fear. One or the other, generally the guy is sexually neglecting his female for a number of reasons. As a man I really am thankful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them obtainable to us men of romance, making them “hot milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, maybe compassion is gone, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Maybe we have just developed distantly, our ordinary interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is contradictory of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they seek the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run away, for economic gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.